Intro:
Okay well if you are a highschool student, and youre normal, sometime eventually you are going to have to deal with the joy and horrors of Relationships. Now keep in mind that this is from a highschool girl's perspective and that your veiws and beliefs may be entirely different then mine, but hang in there. Also if you are not or have not had any relationships through your whole highschool carreer, theres nothing wrong with that per se, but more then likely youll have some kind of relationship with the opposite sex at least once throughout your highschool carreer. and some of you will fall for alot of frogs throughout highschool, its part of life. the best part about life tho, is that it goes on no matter what happens. I think what im going to do with this post is iim going to put EVERYTHING that has to do with relationships like as in dating in this post and just have it catagorized, im not really sure how this will work out but imma roll with it and see how it goes. so do me a solid and be patient. organization will probably be a bit lacking but, its okay. we'll get through this :]
Opposing Apathy:
Okay i have multiple friends dealing with this right now, and this subject has also hit home with me a few times. Alot of people, not all people, but a very high percentage of people in a relationship need or want to be shown love. now im not talking about physically or sexually but just in general. And a big part of that is caring. You cant be in a working relationship if you dont care for that person or that person doesnt care for you, hello relationships 101 here. But what do you do if you are in a relationship and the other person means the world to you, but it doesnt seem like they care? well first. dont lock up. dont pretend like nothing is wrong and just keep everything hidden. communication is without a doubt one of the most important things in a relationship. so open up and let your person know whats up. secondly, dont just give up with out fighting for at least awhile to make the relationship work, then if it doesnt at least you can say you tried. thirdly, if the problem continues after youve continuously tried to fix it, dont feel like you owe it to this person to stay in the relationship. get out. if they arent making you happy then you have NO reason to be with them, even if youstill have feelings for them or if youd had a history. The problem isnt gonna just magically solve itself and its not gonna get better if its been continueing for so long. thats just how it is. And if you are the one who isnt caring or if your person tells you that you dont care, then take a step back and see why it is that theyed think that, and if its cause you really dont care then likewise to before, get out of it. no need dragging the other person through thorns just because you dont want to break up for whatever reason. and if you do care then try to figure out what you need to do to make it so the other person sees that you do indeed care. just because someone tells you, you dont care doesnt mean you dont, it just means that theres a mix up in communication and it needs to be talked out and resolved. just because it seems like the relationship is going south or losing its spark or whatever doesnt mean its time to abandon ship. if the relationship really means something to you, then theres no excuses for giving up. keep with it untill you can make it work. and if you cant make it work then either it doesnt mean enough to both of you or it just wasnt meant to be. well thats all on this subject that i got. goodluck to you
Devastating Breakups*:
Ohhh heres a big one. Breakups are without a doubt the hardest part of highschool. Nobody wants to be the one with a broken heart. And its especially hard because when you're young every little thing feels like the end of the world. but its not i promise you... life will continue to go on even if you arent with your boy or girl. now if only i could take my own advice. when you date in highschool, youre gonna get youre heart broken sooo many times before you find the right guy. thats just how it is.. you need to be able to cope with a break up though and be strong so you dont end up doing something extremely stupid without even thinking about it. Im no expert on trying to get over guys, trust me but i know some of the worst things that can happen, happen when youre heartbroken and vulnrable. so lets over ways to not be that way.
-surround yourself with great friends that are willing to help you get over your break up. they need to be good influences though that dont encourage you to do something stupid to get over it. i know i wouldnt be able to get anywhere in life with out all my wonderful friends. so dont push your friends away at your time of need, its okay for them to see you vulnrable and broken. they dont mind they still love you even when you feel like no one does. and dont let yourself be with out friend even when things are fine with your guy or girl.. becuz most of the time relationships in highschool dont make it in the long run. remember chicks before dicks and bros before hoes. thats the truth right there.
-you DO NOT need another guy or girl to get over a break up. that has BAD idea written ALLLLLL over it. all you are going to do is further your confusion and youre gonna let a total pig take advantage of your emotional state of mind. DONT DO IT. once again i say turn to your friends, they arent gonna make things worse for you, theyre there to help you, starting another relationship is NO way to get over the previous one. rebound mode is the most dangerous part of breakups.. be strong my friends. remember some one loves you, and would kill to see you never get hurt, dont put yourself in these situations.
-dont give up on yourself. it may really feel like the end of the world. you may feel like youll never get back up. but look to a better day my friends... it will get better, you werent given life for it just to be a miserable wreck the whole time. it will get better i promise you. you have to let it though, stay positive and dont mope around. i may not even know you but i can tell you that i love you way to much for you to throw your life in the dumps. dont let it get that far. life will eventually get better if you keep telling yourself it will, and actually believe it.
-and finally dont go back to the moron who made you unhappy to begin with. it will honestly just happen over and over again. if you dont believe any of what im telling you at least believe this. ive made this same mistake over and over, you dont need to too. people rarely change. so if they hurt you more then once.. then its NEVER gonna work out.. its gonna keep happening over and over again untill you have nothing left to hurt. dont let it tho.. PLEASE do me a solid and take these words in. lifes to short to be stuck with a douche the whole time.
well thats all i have at the moment. look for more tips in the future. good luck
Suffocating Obsessions:
oh heres a fun one. besides the whole breakup thing, this is probably one of my least favorite topics in relationships, but hey, im not here for me, im here for you :]. so i have had this happen to me before... unfortunately more then once. you're in a relationship, and youre just starting off right, and its been one maybe two weeks or even just a month, and your person is telling you he/she loves you. uhm no. or that he or she is falling for you. once again probably not. out of all the "relationships" i have had, i have only fallen for like 3 guys, and have only loved one. maybe im just an unfeeling demon child, but something tells me thats not the case. more likely then not, its the other person's fault, not saying that i dont have my own cause everyone does but in that situation, i dont think that not falling for someone in a short amount of time is wrong. it takes a bit more time then a week or two. i mean in some cases i s'pose a month is okay but not usually. and if a guy/girl is "falling for you" and you dont feel the same way yet, dont be afraid to tell them, it doesnt mean the relationship has to end, it just means that it needs more time to grow. and if it keeps getting worse, dont be afraid to walk out, you may hurt the persons feelings but trust me, if they can jump into a relationship that fast, they can bounce back from one just as fast. now what if its been awhile and you feel that way, and so does your person. then what? a word of caution, too much of a good thing can be a bad thing. space yourselves. if you spend too much time with your significant other it can honestly only lead to the worst. plus youll start spending less and less time with your friends, then when something happens between you two, whos going to be there for a shoulder to cry on? its just a better idea to space the time you spend with your boyfriend/girlfriend. plus the closer you get at this age, the worse the breakup will be if/when you break up. now if you are the obsessive one and your person doesnt feel the same way, then maybe you should back up alil? think about your relationship and ask yourself if you really feel the way about your person as your saying you do, because people dont think its charming if you just say that to try to make yourself feel that way, it has to happen on its own, most of the time, the other person just thinks its really corny and pathetic. or at least thats what i would think. but do whatever you feel is right, its your life not mine. but thats what i have for you, take it in or block it out
*love is key**
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